I feel the same way, but from Frank's responses I don't get the feeling that he wants to hear about individual's approaches to art or their philosophies on the subject of art but just wants to learn which button to push first and which last. this is an approach to artwork that is foreign to me and I can be of little help here.every user's experience is interesting to be heard.
What might be of general interest though, is that Sandra wouldn't understand any of what you listed as the first steps for Frank to follow, yet her work looks so good. She uses the pen tool and the layer sliders, and I described that.
This is why I don't believe in cookbook formulas and tutorials about "How to Paint a Tree" or "How to Paint the Human Face". How to paint a house, yes, but background painting is an art form.
The lessons should be: What to look for when painting the human face. Or, How to understand the functionality of backgrounds.
You pretty much came to the same conclusion yourself, when you said:
I'm often embarrased when it goes to teach to anyone how to do this or that,
because I have not one but a bunch of different ways to bring forward,
and I don't know which one of these will suit to anybody else,